Does Marriage Change You?

Go ahead and Google that phrase. How many articles pop up? Everyone has an opinion (myself included, as I’m writing this blog).

Marriage is a beautiful thing. I’m not an expert – I’m still a newlywed – but so far, so good. Over the past 9 months, things have changed. Nothing to be frightened by – change is the only thing that is guaranteed in this world. Things like…

  • My name (duh)
  • My insurance: Y’all. Combining your car insurance after marriage is amazing. Andy & I saved $500+ with Geico. If you haven’t done it yet, get on and make some cash!
  • My vocabulary: Husband still sounds weird and old. I’ve resorted to Hubs to those who don’t know Andy.
  • My priorities.

pri·or·i·ty /prīˈôrədē/ noun. A thing that is regarded as more important than another.

My hubs and my dog are the two more important things in my life, followed by my family, friends, job and well-being. Doesn’t sound too far-fetched, single friends? That’s because it’s not WHAT priorities have changed, but how.

No longer does a night out on the town sound enjoyable (albeit it can be a needed distraction). My days are filled with working hard, followed by nights of cooking, cleaning, and couch snuggling. I find it harder and harder to make time for others, and more decisive on who deserves what little time I have outside of those in my home.

People have entered and exited my life. I can’t keep up with everyone like I used to, and I honestly don’t want to. I’m narrowing in on my top priority – living a happily married life, and blocked out former tasks and requirements that don’t bring me joy.

The most beautiful thing about marriage is finding someone who knows and loves the real you – the person who pigs out on snacks at night, cries at series finales, and makes excuses to avoid going out so they can curl up by the fire. And if you’re really lucky, that person will help you to become the best version of yourself – the one whose priorities are in order.

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Top 5: Vows to Take in Your Relationship

Lucky me, I got to go see the prescreening of “The Vow” last night with Channing Tatum and Rachel McAdams. Clearly I cried, a lot, and then realized, “what a great blog topic!” The movie shows just how much can test those oh-so-important vows you take before saying “I Do.” It made me think, what vows are most important to me?

1. I Vow to Be Patient: Relationships are hard. There will be times when you want to just explode on your significant other and give up, but that’s where patience comes in. There is a reason that the bible verse starts “Love is Patient.” Without patience, you can’t survive yourself, let alone anyone else.

2. I Vow to Always Kiss You Goodnight: This sounds so ridiculous, but you never know when it’s going to be your last kiss. This also falls in line with never going to be angry. I’ve been frustrated before at bed time, but I hate going to bed angry. If you don’t wake up, would you want that to be your last memory?

3. I Vow to Respect You: Sure, it seems simple, but I think it’s something that can be overlooked. When you fall in love and into a relationship, sooner than later you become extremely comfortable with that person. And once you’re comfortable, you forget that they deserve just as much respect and understanding as anyone else. Respect means not using them as a punching bag, understanding their busy schedule, and always lending a helping hand.

4. I Vow to Make you Smile: Without a spark of chemistry, a relationship isn’t anything more than a friendship with someone you kiss. By always making the effort to do something that makes your other half feel special, chuckle, or get the “you’re ridiculous” response helps keep that spark alive.

5. I Vow to Love You, Through Everything: At the end of the day, tbe person you make your vows to is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. A vow is important, and you need to remember that you took them because you found the one person who loves you more than yourself. Don’t take that for granted. Regardless of what mistakes they make, love them. 

Go see “The Vow” for yourself and see what vows you find most important. Don’t break them. Love is the rarest gem of all, and once you have it, you’ll never want to give it away.