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Top 5: Vows to Take in Your Relationship

Lucky me, I got to go see the prescreening of “The Vow” last night with Channing Tatum and Rachel McAdams. Clearly I cried, a lot, and then realized, “what a great blog topic!” The movie shows just how much can test those oh-so-important vows you take before saying “I Do.” It made me think, what vows are most important to me?

1. I Vow to Be Patient: Relationships are hard. There will be times when you want to just explode on your significant other and give up, but that’s where patience comes in. There is a reason that the bible verse starts “Love is Patient.” Without patience, you can’t survive yourself, let alone anyone else.

2. I Vow to Always Kiss You Goodnight: This sounds so ridiculous, but you never know when it’s going to be your last kiss. This also falls in line with never going to be angry. I’ve been frustrated before at bed time, but I hate going to bed angry. If you don’t wake up, would you want that to be your last memory?

3. I Vow to Respect You: Sure, it seems simple, but I think it’s something that can be overlooked. When you fall in love and into a relationship, sooner than later you become extremely comfortable with that person. And once you’re comfortable, you forget that they deserve just as much respect and understanding as anyone else. Respect means not using them as a punching bag, understanding their busy schedule, and always lending a helping hand.

4. I Vow to Make you Smile: Without a spark of chemistry, a relationship isn’t anything more than a friendship with someone you kiss. By always making the effort to do something that makes your other half feel special, chuckle, or get the “you’re ridiculous” response helps keep that spark alive.

5. I Vow to Love You, Through Everything: At the end of the day, tbe person you make your vows to is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. A vow is important, and you need to remember that you took them because you found the one person who loves you more than yourself. Don’t take that for granted. Regardless of what mistakes they make, love them. 

Go see “The Vow” for yourself and see what vows you find most important. Don’t break them. Love is the rarest gem of all, and once you have it, you’ll never want to give it away.

Getting Personal

Grown Up, Year One

It’s incredibly hard to believe that a year ago tomorrow, I graduated college. Three and a half years of finals, papers and projects all cumulated to that very moment where I crossed the stage. That being said, I’ve complete year one of adulthood, if you will. I figured I’d document some things I’ve learned.

It’s not easy. How I long for the days of 11am classes, Thirsty Thursday’s at Harpos and afternoon naps. The 9-5 world is just that – business, 9-5. Or, like most advertisers, closer to 8-6. Sure, the whole paycheck thing is awesome, but the free time isn’t close to being comprable.

Work isn’t perfect. Like most proud J-School grads, I expected some $50,000 glam job doing social media for a powerhouse like Budweiser or Old Spice. That didn’t happen. My first job was not a good fit for me at all, but I learned a lot. Will I go back to media? No. Did I really need to know the inner workings of a cow’s digestive system? No. But it’s experience, and an interesting conversation piece.

Respect is earned. I can’t emphasize that enough. It probably doesn’t help that I have a baby face and look like a 16-year-old without the acne, but you have to work very, VERY hard to gain respect out of college. Just because you show up with a degree doesn’t mean you’ve earned your stripes.

Living on your own is not what you did in college. Sure, I had an apartment, I had roommates. I had to buy groceries and pay electric bills, but that was all highly supplemented by my parents. Being on my own now, I realize the importance of budgeting and free time. Laundry doesn’t do itself, trash does not get taken out automatically, and you have no idea how grateful you are for your parents until you’re no longer living with them and calling them up to install a shower head for you.

B-Averages no longer cut it. To give myself credit, I was an A-B honor roll student. However, in the real world, that missed  comma or misspelt word that would have gotten a few points off now can cause meetings with your boss, client, or worse – HR department. Practice makes perfect is no longer the motto – get everything right the first time by double and triple checking your work is.

Responsibility is nice. I wasn’t allowed to have a dog as a child, teen, or college student. Now, living on my own, I was able to get Yadi. Yes, he’s a damn handful, but I enjoy being responsible for him and myself. When you have to count on yourself, you quickly learn to appreciate what you do.

Life goes on. I had a breakdown or two that I wouldn’t ever see my friends after graduating early. That’s false. Keeping your relationships is just as important as landing a job. Are their things I miss about college life? OF COURSE. But all in all, I’m enjoying the grown-up life.

Getting Personal


You know you haven’t blogged in a long time when WordPress logs you out. Yikes.

So, I posed the question on twitter – what do I blog about – and to my surprise, Andy replied, “what about me.” I immediately thought to myself, “lord, does he really want me to do that? has he read my blogs before?” but I never turn down a request, so here I go, channeling my inner Carrie Bradshaw, writing about love.

Andy & I met last summer at the hockey rink (yes, I hang around hockey rinks in summer – don’t judge) and hit it off immediately. I won’t bore you with the juicy details from then until now, but needless to say, here we are, 15 months later.

There are steps we are told to make in a relationship. Talking (I still don’t get this “stage”), dating, exclusivity. First base, second base, third base, etc. However when you fall in love, and I mean REALLY fall in love, you ignore all of that and do your own thing because hey, you’re in love, you’ve got love on your side. This is clearly the hard way, however, it’s also the way that brings you closer.

We moved in together in June, 11 months into our relationship, which was fine by both of us, because financially it was genius, and as mentioned above, we’re in love. This is the guy I want to be with forever, so while I should have maybe questioned my decision more, I didn’t. And I’m glad I didn’t, because it’s been great. Yes, GREAT. Sure, boys are messy. The bathroom smells more frequently; the video game consoles are in use more than I even knew they were capable of; the amount of food in the house decreases quickly. But you know what? As frustrating as it could get, it could never outweigh the feeling I get going to bed every night next to the person I love. Knowing that if I have a bad day I can come straight home to a big hug (and a lick on the face – can’t forget puppy!) means everything to me. I’d be lying if I said we never argue. Anyone who knows us knows our stubborn personalities can clash. But no argument can overrule the way we feel.

I’m not easy to live with. I’ll be the first to admit it. I let my emotions get the best of me and take it out on the people I love. I know I don’t make it easy for him, but somehow he sticks with me. I’m very lucky, because a love like this only comes once in your life. You only get one shot to make it work, and lucky for me, I’ve got someone willing to do that.

I truly appreciate everything you do for me Andy, and I don’t think I tell you enough. Therefore, I’ll give you exactly what you asked – you as the topic. Love you.